Venting or Bad-Mouthing..?

Do we remind ourselves not to talk too much?

Humans are built to have flaws. Can you name me one person who is just perfect? Exactly. The fact that you can’t give me a name is already a flaw. That’s just beyond our human mind. With weaknesses come negative actions. Decisions which we’re not necessarily proud of but we do it anyway. How many times have we bad-mouthed someone? And how many times have we said we’re just venting?

You see, the thing is….venting does work to our advantage in certain situations. It keeps us from growing into a volcano, inch by inch until one day, we just explode. But would it still be a life tool if all we’re doing is talking behind that person’s back? That’s something to ponder. As I am also guilty at times, let’s step into this together. What’s the difference between venting and bad-mouthing? Continue reading


Comfort Zone – When NOT to step out!

Should you get up from your comfortable seat and take the steps into the unknown...?

Should you get up from your comfortable seat and take the steps into the unknown…?

A load of crap. I mean…it can be.

We live in a world where people do what others do and say what others say. I agree that stepping out of the comfort zone manufactures a set of wings that lets you soar across the sky like a newly grown dove. The more grounds you cover, the wider the view and the better the insight. There’s only one problem. The phrase “you need to step out of your comfort zone” has been used one too many times and honestly, it’s getting old.

I’m allergic to the habit of expressing things like these simply because we’ve heard it being used many times. It’s a shame that our society makes conformity the root of most actions. Come on… haven’t we watched Divergent? As fictional as that is, I’m certain there’s one or two lessons embedded within the script. If only we’d open our eyes and have a real good look. Continue reading

Time and all its games

Seconds, minutes and hours. Constantly running out.

Seconds, minutes and hours. Constantly running out.

I’ve recently watched Interstellar and…(drum roll)… kudos! I loved it. I’ve never been a fan of sci-fi but this movie surely changed that. And the fact that Anne Hathaway was in it… even better. I love her! There’s one thing about the movie which brings me to this post. Time.

Matthew McConaughey (Cooper in the movie) traveled to space in search of a new home for Earth’s inhabitants. Long story short (because I suck at explaining Science), the time difference between Earth and wherever he was heading to was mind blowing. It was something like an hour to Earth’s seven years. Yeah, I know…completely insane. So he missed watching his children grow up…very emotional.

Anyway, that got me thinking. We rarely sit down and think about how well time is being used, do we? Or even if we do give it some thought, we barely know what to do. As much as we want to make the best use of the time we have, dreams and desires overlap one another. Responsibilities seize the top position on our list, burying the much wanted goal beneath layers of doubts. Time is cruel…cruel in the sense that it presses us and stretches us. No matter what we do, there’ll always be something that goes undone. We will always try to get that done but at the end of the day, it’ll still be a long journey. Continue reading

Why being cool should not be an effort

There’s probably a million ways to interpret “cool”. Someone has a luxurious car parked in the driveway, that’s cool. That girl with that all-black outfit, cool! He’s so smooth around girls, cool… It goes a thousand angles but regardless, I think being cool should not take much of an effort. If it does, that’s more of trying to be cool rather than being cool. Sadly, people who can’t seem to grasp this concept are probably everywhere. I understand the drive to impress…but there’s nothing so impressive if the attempt to be cool is pretty much obvious, is there?

It’s about time that we realize the fact that when we don’t bother about being cool…we are cool. In time, those around us will appreciate how comfortable we are with ourselves. I can’t stress it enough that we are all different and we should not struggle to conform or be someone whom we are not. Of course, we occasionally find the need to do so but let’s not that that idea too far until it becomes part of our lives. A second nature. An unhealthy second nature. Continue reading

The Power of Organization

Be like the electric grid, through which power flows smoothly.

Be like the electric grid’s system, through which power flows smoothly.

I may or may not have OCD but given that I work better with a system, I couldn’t care less (at least not so much. Hah!). There should be at least two groups of people – the ones who work better in clutter and those who seem to do well if everything is organized. I hereby declare that I am definitely, definitely a member of the latter. Throw me in a pit of mess and I’ll never get anything done even after seven days, six nights. When organized, however, I will complete the task.

I have always been one to have everything lined up. Back in the university days, I lose track of assignments if I don’t have them written on my self-produced worksheet. Some may see it as being too systematic, putting myself into a hassle of organizing when it’s not necessary. Well, it is for me. Even up to this very day, most of my… agendas… are organized. It’s like my brain goes into sleep mode whenever it detects clutter. So, how can I not be systematic or organized or “arranged”?

In my systematic world, here’s why I think being organized helps… Continue reading

Growing from crises

We should learn to love the dark as lights do not glow when the day's shining bright.

We should learn to love the dark as lights do not glow when the day’s shining bright.

I have to come clean before I indulge in this post. Truth be told, I’m probably one of the last people who know anything about crisis management. Regardless, I’m moving ahead because I do know one thing. No matter how bad a person handles a crisis, he or she will always come out stronger. It’s one of those buy-one-free-one packages. You throw yourself in a pit of troubles, you struggle, climb out, take a shower and feel cleaner than ever. So perhaps we could at least try and see problems as some form of consolation. That could just help us through it, if not over it.

Here’s why I think crises can be beneficial…

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The Waves of Anger

Anger... the waves in our hearts.

Anger… the waves in our hearts.

We may or may not have given this a deep thought but if you really think about it, anger isn’t that much different from ocean waves. There’s time when the waves are roaring like a mad lion, aggressively rippling towards the shore. But at times, it’s all calm and clear. Human beings and nature are more alike then we give them credit for.

Emotions are a roller coaster ride. They go up and drive you mad before plummeting and evaporating into thin air. When we’re angry, all we want to do is scream. Yell at the person we’re mad at. We choose words which we think would deliver a bullet no one could dodge. We do everything we can to cause damage to the other party. Why? Because we know how much our anger wants to be fed. And more often than not, we give in. I, for one, have realized that anger management is complicated but not impossible. We simply need to wait for the low tide. Continue reading