Venting or Bad-Mouthing..?

Do we remind ourselves not to talk too much?

Humans are built to have flaws. Can you name me one person who is just perfect? Exactly. The fact that you can’t give me a name is already a flaw. That’s just beyond our human mind. With weaknesses come negative actions. Decisions which we’re not necessarily proud of but we do it anyway. How many times have we bad-mouthed someone? And how many times have we said we’re just venting?

You see, the thing is….venting does work to our advantage in certain situations. It keeps us from growing into a volcano, inch by inch until one day, we just explode. But would it still be a life tool if all we’re doing is talking behind that person’s back? That’s something to ponder. As I am also guilty at times, let’s step into this together. What’s the difference between venting and bad-mouthing? Continue reading

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Comfort Zone – When NOT to step out!

Should you get up from your comfortable seat and take the steps into the unknown...?

Should you get up from your comfortable seat and take the steps into the unknown…?

A load of crap. I mean…it can be.

We live in a world where people do what others do and say what others say. I agree that stepping out of the comfort zone manufactures a set of wings that lets you soar across the sky like a newly grown dove. The more grounds you cover, the wider the view and the better the insight. There’s only one problem. The phrase “you need to step out of your comfort zone” has been used one too many times and honestly, it’s getting old.

I’m allergic to the habit of expressing things like these simply because we’ve heard it being used many times. It’s a shame that our society makes conformity the root of most actions. Come on… haven’t we watched Divergent? As fictional as that is, I’m certain there’s one or two lessons embedded within the script. If only we’d open our eyes and have a real good look. Continue reading

Three reasons to speak up

Silence does not always work your way.

Silence does not always work your way.

It’s sad that we have so many things to share but rarely share them, so many thoughts to reveal but often keep them hidden. There’s no escaping from a world flooded with perceptions, what with people constantly judging you. You’ll keep thinking if the words you say would offend someone or if they would make you look stupid. So you take the safest route out. Keep quite.

While that may help you avoid confrontation, it could also land you nowhere. Think again. Why would you let someone else fly your plane? I’d rather have it on autopilot than have a passenger take over the cockpit. Speaking up does more good than harm if you really think about it. Here are three reasons why I say so. Continue reading

How To Feel Proud Without Being Snobbish

It's good to climb up but it's never good to forget where we began.

It’s good to climb up but it’s never good to forget where we began.

Feeling proud is the source of confidence but as life is, too much of anything is never good. When there’s too much pride in the chest, it explodes into something that’s not only bad for us but also for those around us. I am seriously allergic towards show-offs, boasters and those along that line. But as much as I hate such attitude, at least it reminds me to not forget that I could as easily become snobbish if I’m not careful.

I reckon the problem is not because people are not aware that showing off is not very appealing. The problem is perhaps people refuse to acknowledge that they’re being snobbish (in cases that apply). I’d like to share this post for, hopefully, the benefit of all of us.

Here are some of the ways I think could grant us the luxury of feeling proud with our achievements without risking coming off as a boastful jerk. Continue reading