Growing from crises

We should learn to love the dark as lights do not glow when the day's shining bright.
We should learn to love the dark as lights do not glow when the day’s shining bright.

I have to come clean before I indulge in this post. Truth be told, I’m probably one of the last people who know anything about crisis management. Regardless, I’m moving ahead because I do know one thing. No matter how bad a person handles a crisis, he or she will always come out stronger. It’s one of those buy-one-free-one packages. You throw yourself in a pit of troubles, you struggle, climb out, take a shower and feel cleaner than ever. So perhaps we could at least try and see problems as some form of consolation. That could just help us through it, if not over it.

Here’s why I think crises can be beneficial…

Why do crises help us grow?

  1. They develop a sense of frustration
    It’s a given that no one likes being in an awful situation. It drains your energy, make you feel like you want to pull your brains out and often pushes you to the edge of tears, or simply drown you in them. But as negative as it is, it does give you one good thing. Upon facing several problems in life, you might come to a point when you’re simply too tired to care. While that isn’t exactly healthy, it does have an indirect positive outcome.

    Being frustrated creates a sort of defense mechanism. By not giving a damn, you put yourself in a bubble that protects you, a place where you choose not to get hurt but rather pretend that the problem does not exist. This buys you time to truly think about the crisis at hand. You’ll be able to have a second look at the problem and chances are you’ll realize that it isn’t that bad after all. You’ll soon develop a feeling which tells you that you will get out of this. From frustration to ignorance to realization. Not a mainstream ideology but I reckon is worth giving a thought.

  2. They help us discover new solutions
    Whether it’s failing to find a decent public toilet when you really need to go, or struggling to cope with a working environment which drowns you deeper into depression, crises can open your eyes and serve you with insights. For instance, you have a metabolism rate that is faster than a sprint runner and you easily sweat like the world’s about to end. That gives you multiple problems – discomfort, body odor, see-through shirt, etc. What do you do? The more frequent you face that situation the stronger the drive to find a solution. You try all options you can think of and finally settle on one. It doesn’t matter how silly that might be so long you are able to drag yourself out of the problem. Perhaps, you may opt to always wear an inner clothing and spray on extra fragrance. Really, this is practically anything goes.

  3. They grant us the satisfaction of surviving
    It sucks being in a crisis, I know. I really, really know. But think about it. Some situations force you to think of a way out. Or a way to remain standing, even if the situation does not budge an inch. You fight and you fight and you fight. If you’re lucky, the problem ends. If not, the problem stays but so do you. Without realizing it, you are developing endurance. Imagine a bad day. A realllly bad one.

    You’re late for work because your alarm didn’t go off. Then your car refuses to start because of some God-knows-what problem. You opt for the train but then an announcement says it has been delayed due to technical problems. So you have no choice but to wait. When the system finally resumes, you feel a stirring in your stomach – the call of nature, a huge one! You endure the pain because there’s no public toilet nearby. When you reach the office, your boss bombards you for not submitting your report on time. You start working on the report but your stomach is still doing back-flips and  star jumps. And you this…and you that… the list goes on. At night, however, when you’re lying on your bed, you’ll sigh and indulge in self-pity. But there will be a whisper saying that you got through it. You survived the brutality. You are still alive. At that point, don’t be shocked if you start smiling. I know I sound delusional but I’m writing based on logic…and this is logic. It can happen. So you get to seal your bad, bad day with satisfaction.

Having written all of the above, I still do hate crisis and I still find it hard to believe that situations like that can train me well. But that’s probably because I suck at handling tight scenarios. I break down easily, I panic, I burst and I do all sorts of things… But now that I’ve written this, I’ll probably be able to try the positive route if I do land in an ugly situation.


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